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Angela (Ang) Elo-Rivera's avatar

This article resonates with my genealogy research journey *so* much. My father and his siblings all have a name listed on their birth certificates as their father, but after taking a DNA test, we discovered that person on official documentation was not their father. It opened the door to a whole new set of information for us (we met his newly found three sisters from his biological dad!), but I am still trying to find out who the original name on the certificate belongs to. I’ve searched for this person far and wide and have come up with nothing and I’m starting to settle into the reality I may never know… and that he may not actually exist at all. I have one more avenue to explore that could reveal this person’s identity but I’ve stalled on digging because I’m not sure I’m even ready for that definitive answer. Anyways, I thank you for this article and for your writing on the subject - it’s been immensely helpful to me.

Jane Deeley's avatar

My grandfather was married to another woman in another part of the country before he met my grandmother in London and my father was was born. He had a son with her, and when that son married in the 1950s, his marriage certificate states that his father was deceased. I know that he was in fact alive then and living with his family in my home town, dying there around 5 years later. What I don’t know and cannot prove is whether either his first son or wife knew the actual circumstances and were covering an earlier desertion with a white lie, or whether one or both truly believed he was dead. I also don’t know if anyone else in our family knew of the earlier wife and child’s existence. Never mentioned in my lifetime, that I am aware and all others gone now.

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